Advice, Blame, Emotionally-Challenged, Excuses, Insecurity, Rebound, Relationships / Friday, September 16th, 2011 / BY / 0 comments

Don’t Be The Steady Fall Back Girl

Are you dating somebody who doesn’t seem too involved in your relationship? Do you feel he gets more excited to watch UFC than making love to you? Do you know the difference between making love and screwing in your relationship or do you not have enough time during the act to decipher which is which? Are you constantly making excuses to your friends and family as to why you are sticking it out?  Is this article already aggravating you?  If so, then you probably feel (and most likely are) the fall back girlfriend.

As you already know, a lot of men out there are terrified of commitment and even the thought of committing to someone has them running for the hills. Unfortunately, a lot of women tend to fall for these guys (at least twice in their lifetimes) because many single ladies tend to think that working for love is far more rewarding than just plain accepting it in their lives.

Some man are known for keeping steady “girlfriends” and honestly have no intention of committing to them–despite how awesome the girl may be. In their deluded minds, they can do better and stay with these girls simply for the guaranteed sex and if you are staying with a guy who matches this description, then you are letting him take advantage of you in a big, bad way.

To him, you are Karen from Goodfellas. You can cook, clean, give him massages at his wishes and be the comfort zone and security blanket he comes home to after pursuing other women.  He knows you won’t question his whereabouts because he knows you foolishly treasure his company and you fawn over him like a celebrity.  In short, he has it all.

When you are the fallback girl, every day feels like a nauseating roller-coaster ride.  Your mind is running a mile a minute and you constantly feel butterflies in your stomach for all the wrong reasons. But hell, it’s better than being alone, right? WRONG.  Letting this behavior take over your life is not healthy, the longer you stay, the more you feel something is wrong with you.  The more you try to make him love you and the more you convince yourself you will be the one he commits to.  Like a workplace during a recession, you are constantly waiting for the ball to drop and living like that is detrimental to any woman’s well-being.

In reality, men do not end up happily with women who treat them like kings. They end up with queens who don’t put up with their childish ways and who challenge them on a daily basis.  The key to a healthy relationship is to have other passions in life besides fixing your relationship. Spend time on yourself for a change instead of investing time in a man who can’t see how great you are–because if you don’t, you will never realize how great of a catch you are.

 

 

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