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Compromising, Date, Financial Stability, First Dates, Money / Thursday, February 2nd, 2012 / BY / 13 comments

Why Men Should Stop Complaining About Paying On Dates

I was having a discussion with my boyfriend the other day on how women have no idea how stressful it is for men when they have to take women on expensive dates on a regular basis.

Really.

Now I understand to a point that men are pressured to some sort of degree to be the financial providers for dates, (at least for the first few) however, what men do not comprehend is that women also have to endure the same same stress and come out of the pocket in order to look nice for them.

According to a recent free dating study conducted by Match.com, 53 percent of women spend money to primp themselves before a date and 65 percent of those female participants admitted to paying at least 50 dollars to look good.

I don’t know about the rest of you ladies, but I must fall in the 35 percent category because I recently tallied what I usually spend money on before my first few dates with a guy I really like.  Let’s go through my budget, shall we?

Outfit: 70 dollars and up

Hair: 35 dollars for a blow out and 100 dollars if I want to wear my fancy hair extensions.

Manicure: 25 dollars

Shoes: 50 dollars and up

Lingerie (after date 3 of course):  50 dollars

Spray Tan: 30 dollars

Bikini Wax (again, after date 3 of course): 30 dollars

Now, I’m not vain in anyway, but on the first few dates I really want to look my absolute best and if it’s the first date with a guy I really like, I will spend at least 290 dollars before the date! (And I don’t even shop for brand names!)

So the next time a fella comments on how much money he’s spending when taking you to a dinner and a movie, write up your pre-date budget and show him how much of your hard-earned cash you sacrifice simply to look your best for him.

What is your stance on this subject? Do you agree or disagree? Comment below!


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  • Anonymous

    I am so with you there. I don’t think guys do understand what you spend to look good for them or the stress we girls go through !! Love it Slon

    • Lopez

      Thanks sweetie!

  • Singlemuch

    Never thought of it like that! TRUTH! I just went on a date w/ a guy who let me split the bill. I always offer but usually a man says no. This time he was thrilled to have me pay my portion. I suppose I’m a tad old fashioned since it was a turn off that he let me.

  • Angie

    Lol! So true! I never thought of it that way either! Did I say I love a man who likes to pay for everything?? It’s sexy. And I find myself always available for dates when those kind of men ask ;-)

  • http://www.facebook.com/TheSassyDivorcee TheSassy Divorcee

    I also never thought of it from that perspective. I’ve always been a bit embarrassed to admit I like when the guy pays. I always offer to split the bill but it’s disingenuous cause I’m silently hoping he’ll say no. 

    That being said, I also don’t like when a guy refuses to let me pay for anything after a few dates. Please le me buy you an espresso without it threatening your manhood. It won’t break my beauty budget or my bank and I’ll feel like I contributed. Anyone else encountered this guy?  

    • Lopez

      I know! They are the worst! I’m all for paying after the first few dates….there is nothing emasculating about paying for an espresso…some guys! Yeesh! :P

  • http://twitter.com/manifestmate Kelly Ellzey

    Huh. I’m having a hard time agreeing with this article – but  I absolutely do get how much pressure society puts on women to look good, I just don’t think men should be held accountable for what we have to pay to look good. 

    I think on the “Who should pay” question men should take up more of the brunt because in general, men still tend to make as much as women – or in my case, I had a daughter to support, so splitting things exactly 50/50 would have created a hardship for me. 

    If both of you make roughly the same or the women makes more, than I think the women should pay for more of dates.

    Also – I think whoever asked who out should be prepared to pay. When you are doing what I like to call “the sniffing of the butts” – the first meet and greet – it’s to your advantage to NOT agree to dinner and a movie, but keep the date short and sweet and meet at a coffee shop or something. It’s less expensive by far AND takes up much less of your time with a guy you might not want to spend a lot of time with.

    • Lopez

      Hey Kelly….love your “sniffing of the butts” analogy…I agree a 100 percent! lol Thanks for the comment!

  • http://twitter.com/princesabin Bing

    Not every girl is like you: a lot of women don’t primp themselves up to that extent. What about the suit the guy gets, the quality haircut, his manicure (if he’s comfortable with himself) the gas he pays for…plus you’re not primping for him…you’re primping for all the other guys. Him paying for dinner is just for you. Plus you have the shoes and dress and lingerie forever…(well maybe not the lingerie) whereas he gets one date.

    This comes from a man who almost always pays on the first date: the only times I don’t demand to pay is when the date is terrible and the woman has radically misrepresented herself and then I say “your share is” and put down my money and get out of there.

    • Lopez

      I don’t primp for other guys…but thanks for the comment nonetheless! :P

    • Mark

      Your post makes too much sense. Don’t expect women to agree. Women actually believe that men care whether or not they have new shoes, clothes and cosmetics. When was the last time you dumped a woman for wearing a dress that was 4 weeks old?

  • http://twitter.com/princesabin Bing

    Kelly that sounds fine in theory and fair to say who asked out who should be prepared to pay, but the fact is men ask out women 99% of the time. I kept asking out this woman to coffee, and she kept asking to move it to dinner…at a fancy place. I dropped her quickly. She was more interested in the free meal than getting to know each other. But I agree. The first date should be something simple: coffee, or something fun as hell like bowling.

  • Anonymous

    No matter which part of the world I’ve lived in, the guys who have asked me out have always paid for the date.  I always make it a point to offer, and have (quite a few times) split the bill in half.  

    I also feel that there’s nothing wrong in a woman offering to pay or taking the initiative to pay for ‘dates’ after going out with the guy a few times.  I’ve surprised my dates by getting tickets for a live theatre show / movie and dinner / or just buying them something nice (I got one guy a really nice scarf ‘cos he would complain about the cold) just ‘cos it’s my way of showing appreciation for them always taking me out.  

    Sure women spend a lot on getting decked up for a night out with a guy that they really like … but if we started keeping tabs like that – where would we be ? 

    On a side note, I’ve come to learn that the person asking someone out should be prepared to foot the bill; and I think it’s a bit lame if a guy suggests splitting the bill if its under $30. Just my opinion. 

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